Hi it’s Mollie, I looked at my mums blog and I loved it, so my mum is letting me have my own category.
So hi I’m Mollie and this is my first post. My mum is going to interview me now so here it goes.
1 How does it make you feel if you are asked or told to do something?
It doesn’t really feel anything, I don’t know that I am avoiding it, it is an instinct to avoid the demand. It’s just how I am.
2 How do you feel if someone tries to make you do something right now and not in your own time?
My stomach goes in knots and I feel anxious like they are yelling at me. I get a bit scared, but I don’t show it, if you are going down a big ride it’s scary and that is how I feel if someone gives me a direct demand. I can react differently each time and I never know how I will react.
3 Why or what caused you to have huge meltdowns?
If you are a baby and you want something you would cry and shout until you get it. It is a bit like like, one reason for a meltdown is to get something. Another reason is if you have a brother and he is getting all of the attention and you think that your parents love him more than you then you will do what you need to get attention. Even if it means been told off, some attention is better than no attention. If you are so angry, it isn’t like normal people you can’t keep it inside, you can’t calm down, you have to punch or kick something, you have to release your rage through your arms and legs. People telling me what to do or yelling at me makes me angry. Its like Pompeii all over again except the volcano doesn’t stop erupting. My family are the Pompeeins and I am the volcano. I can erupt anyplace anywhere if they make one wrong step bang !!!
4 Why Don’t You Have Meltdowns Anymore?
I don’t know why, I don’t think that I have changed, I think that you have changed. My environment is different now because I don’t go to school and so I feel calmer. I am teaching myself things so I don’t need to be taught because I can find things out for myself. I feel that because I’m at home I feel a lot safer and my nerves are down. My anxiety liquid has also helped to calm my nerves. Also letting me do my own thing and you and dad not making me stick to rules or boundaries helps me to feel calm and in control.
5 Do you feel bad if you hit or shout at someone?
If I hit someone I feel bad a second later and so I run off, I’m terrified and hope that they won’t see me or know that it was me. I’m scared that they won’t forgive me or forget what I have done. I do feel regret, anxious and scared after a meltdown and that I need to move away and find new friends because I will have lost those. That is why I could never go back to school after I had a meltdown and was restrained by the teachers.
6 Why do you think that some stuff isn’t rude?
I see people like teenagers and adults say stuff and I want to fit in and so I say that without realising that its wrong because they laugh at swear words. I’m like I’ve heard loads of people say that why is it wrong, my mum tells me that its wrong. Because I’ve got a good memory I remember the words and use them when I am angry. Sometimes I try to make it funny and my friend always laughs at that stuff but I can’t tell my mum any of that stuff. Sometimes when I swear I don’t care because I get angry but when I see them upset I do feel the tiniest bit of remorse.
7 Do Punishments and Boundaries Work To Make You Behave Differently ?
No, punishments and boundaries don’t work because they make me mad instead. Also punishments can make me feel scared and stressed out. I’m not a doctor and so I don’t always know why things do or don’t work.
8 Why Do You Tell Lies or Make Up Stories?
Lies about my life and my family are to make me seem more interesting so I may tell someone that me and my family have been on the biggest roller coaster on the world. I say things like this so that people will be interested in me and like me. Other lies like for example saying “Jake, someone has run over Rosebud” I would say because I think it is funny to see the reaction. I just think it is funny and I don’t naturally think how I have made that person feel.
9 How Do You Feel About Having PDA, Are You Happy?
Sometimes I’m not happy but sometimes I am happy because having PDA makes me special. Sometimes I feel that having PDA really messes up my life, people can look at me weird and think that I am weird but I’m not. I am getting used to it and starting to feel more comfortable and confident about myself.
10 What Are The Really Positive Things About You?
I am very funny, sometimes I say things that make people laugh without meaning too. I am very lively and I have a great imagination. I am extremely clever with a high IQ meaning that I can solve visual problems really easily. I am very creative and really good at art. Oh and I’m a brilliant actress, how do you think I lie so well and fool others into believing my stories. I guess that I am a little bit mischievous because I really love playing pranks and practical jokes.
11 How Can Mum and Dad Help You To Be The Best and The Happiest That You Can Be?
Just carry on with how things are now. No discipline, rules, punishments or anything like that because it makes me more angry. Mum’s and Dad’s need to be patient E.G. Don’t tell me to brush my teeth NOW! Instead leave the toothbrush on the side and leave it for me to decide when to brush my teeth. Parents need to be fun and exciting so that if I slip up or do something wrong you need to stay calm and say its alright. Make sure that I am in a safe environment.
Kids with PDA aren’t bad, their brains may be wired up different but they aren’t that different. We all talk, walk, sneeze and get colds just like everyone else. Don’t try and make them be good with treats, prizes or punishments. We need to be treated with respect, we need to be treated like an adult because we think more like adults than kids. Try to accept us as different rather than try to make us, what others think of as, normal.
So this is Mollies mini post I hope you like it and can’t wait for more.
Please click on the link below to find out who Rosebud is and to meet me.